The mindset behind every stage of the Method
The Rosa Banks Mantras are the key ideas that underpin the Method. They shape the way we think, influence the decisions we make, and create the conditions in which the Method is most likely to succeed. Each one stands alone — together, they're the mindset behind every stage.
Protect the relationship
Protect your relationship with your child, because it is the foundation for everything else.
Read more →Adjust the environment
Think ahead and make thoughtful adjustments to the environment to give your child the best possible chance of coping with it.
Read more →Choose the story carefully
Choose the story you tell yourself about your child carefully, because it will shape the way you parent them.
Read more →Protect their dignity
Protect your child's dignity, because shame makes learning and growth much harder.
Read more →Protect your partnership
Parental relationships can come under pressure and need kindness, thought and effort to stay strong.
Read more →Look after yourself too
Looking after yourself is an essential part of looking after your child.
Read more →Boundaries are shared goals
Think of boundaries as shared goals rather than lines in the sand. Work towards them together over time.
Read more →Stay calm, say less
During a meltdown, stay calm, keep everyone safe and say less.
Read more →Take their feelings seriously
Take changes in your child's emotional wellbeing seriously, know how to respond, and never ignore dark thoughts.
Read more →Celebrate every step
Remember to celebrate every day of calm and every small progression.
Read more →Choose your circle wisely
Surround yourself with people who lift you up, not those who leave you doubting yourself, your child, or your parenting.
Read more →Let the small things go
Focus on the things that really matter, and let the small, annoying behaviours pass by without comment or action.
Read more →Wait for calm to return
Wait until calm returns before trying to teach, reflect, or solve problems.
Read more →Reshape your world together
As your child's world becomes smaller, reshape yours with creativity, so your family can continue to enjoy life together.
Read more →See the need beneath the behaviour
Look beneath the behaviour to understand what your child might be trying to tell you.
Read more →Things change as teens mature
As teens come out the other side of puberty, things do tend to settle down. Hold the space and stay positive about the future.
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